My girlfriend wrote this when she was 10.

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Recently, my girlfriend stumbled upon an old piece of school work. The piece of work was done by her when she was a 10 year old. Now you may be wondering why I would put a piece of school work up on the Word to Life blog. Well I think if you read it, especially with the context of the release of the new Noah film, and the state of the worlds climate with the recent large amount of smog that hit the United Kingdom, I am sure you can see why this powerful piece written by a 10 year old is so poignant.

I do hope you appreciate some of the truths which fall from it, God created a masterpiece but through the sin of the first humans Adam and Eve we marred the broken world that we live in. God decided to try to stem the flow of the evil and trouble in the world through what he did at the time of Noah, I will leave this piece to talk for itself now:

‘Nature is the art of God’

-Dante

This is the motto that we should all live by. It says that we should respect Gods world. Like we respect Leonardo Da Vinci’s Mona Lisa. No one would drop rubbish on that if people lived on the amazing piece of art work which it is. But God is the greatest artist of all. So why should we spoil his creation. We are polluting the air and sea, we are destroying rain forests so one day we will starve and suffocate in our environment we call home. God creating earth has another similarity to the Mona Lisa, Leonardo first painted her without a smile so then he went through drastic measures to make her better so he gave her a smile, we can relate to these changes in the Bible, the story of Noah. God did not like one part of his creation, how bad people were. So he went to great lengths to get it right, even flooding the whole world saving only Noah and his family. Most of the famous art work of centuries ago that still ‘live’ today are priceless. The earth has been here for millions of years and it needs our respect as it is more than priceless.

Let me know what you thought of this piece of work.

I hope it has had an impact on you, as I felt it was thought provoking.

God bless
Gareth

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When does God want me to ‘pop the question’?

 

This is a question which men around the world have to wrestle with all the time. Is there a right time to pop the question, is there a set time. Do you get to so many months or years and then that’s when it is acceptable to pop the question. Well I don’t believe that to be the case. I am firm believer that when you know, you know. So for me, when you meet someone for the first time your thought should be “Is this the person I want to marry?” May seem slightly on the forward side but that should be running through your mind. Now you can test this over a number of months possibly a year to see is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. I must admit I have aimed this post at men who would be thinking of popping the question but of course ladies you can read this if you are wanting to ask your boyfriend to marry you.

So what criteria are there when considering if you should ask the girl you are with if they would marry you?

1. Do you love them?

This may seem obvious and non-Christians reading this may see this as a criteria for marriage but actually the importance of this is so great. In the book of Ephesians there is a call for men to love their wives as Christ loved the church (husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Ephesians 5:25 ESV) Now I don’t know about other men reading this who may be thinking about asking their girlfriends to marry them but when you hear what Paul is saying here about the love which husbands should have for their wives it seems a bit daunting. But this is why it is the first port of call in questioning if you should marry the girl you are with. Do you love her? Love her so much you would be willing to give yourself up for her? Now I don’t think this is just that age old “would you die for her” sort of thing but, would you be willing to make sacrifices for her, give things up out of love for her. For example you may be like to go out partying every other night but that means that you don’t see much of your girlfriend, this is not a stable situation to find yourself in when it comes to marriage, so would you be willing to give up in that situation going out every other night and maybe instead only go out once every other week, or so. These are the sacrifices that Paul is talking about here.

2. Are they a Christian?

This is a topic of much debate. I would personally myself feel it most advisable to marry a Christian. I feel this is because of issues such as baptism of children, can the children go to church and so on. Not only this but there can be issues with moral standpoints and views which can lead to if not start arguments or debates. Saying this however Paul in his first letter to the Corinthians says this (To the rest I say (I not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever and he consents to living with her, she should not divorce him….. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know husband whether you will save you wife? 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 ESV).

Now this long passage may look a bit OTT but Paul is basically saying “look you don’t know what could happen with an unbelieving partner, you never know through your marriage they could come to faith” which sounds great because if you truly love someone and they are not a believer why is the thing you want most of all? That they would be saved and know the Lord Jesus as their Saviour.

3. Do they want the same things in life i.e Children?

This is admittedly more of a practical criteria really. But none the less is a very important criteria. The main example I have used for this criteria is children. The simple fact is if one of you does not want children this may lead to regret, anger or resentment. But this can be the same for any issue, such as where you want to live, what your jobs situations are like. This is obviously something which can be solved very easily with a number of conversations. You can easily discuss future plans. Obviously if you were planning a surprise of asking your partner to marry you, then make these conversations discreet but make sure you cover and think of everything.

4. Could you stand living with them?

This is also a more practical criteria. It is easy to thing someone is the most amazing person in the world when you see them for a couple of hours a day. But living with them is a completely different kettle of fish. It may be that they are loud eaters, or they snore or they are messy. Now I am not suggesting that you can not marry them if they snore. But these are things you need to take in to consideration and also have a conversation about. The most important thing to do in this new step forward in your life is to keep talking to each other.

5. Do you really love them?

Now why have I put this point you may be wondering? Well this is because as we saw in our first point you have to love your wife as Christ loved the church. But like at the end of John’s Gospel, Jesus asks Peter (Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you. John 21:15 ESV) Now Jesus asks this of Peter to make sure Peter is going to be willing to go that extra mile for him. Jesus is testing Peters love making sure Peter is ready to follow Jesus through thick and thin. This is the love you need to be certain you have for your soon to be wife and the love that they equally have for you. Then you will know if you are willing to through thick and thin for each other.

So there we go, we have been through five issues which I feel are grounds to think on when wondering about marriage. Are there more? probably depending on your situation with your partner. Are there less? No, I don’t think so.

I do hope if you are reading this and looking at going into marriage, that God will bless you and your future wife in all that you do together and that you will keep God the creator of marriage in the centre.

God bless
Gareth

20 Real things every woman should realise about men: A Christian view on Love and Relationships.

 

So I was recently linked to an awful page that tried to make men out to women as lustful stupid beasts.  Well my aim in this post is to change that view. I want to encourage especially Christian couples, that is not the way a man and a woman should view each other. But if you are a non-believer, I want you to see that is not good enough either.

So here are the 20 points coming up:

1. He Loves you as Christ loved the Church.

Every man in a Christian relationship should love you as Christ loved the Church that means, that with every fibre in his being and even to the point of giving his life for you, that should be how much he loves you. This does not mean you don’t love him. You love him back just as much, that is the key to love in the Christian relationship.

2. Be subject to him.

I know you have instantly gasped or may even have thought of not reading anymore, but this point does not give your partner the right to dominate you or abuse you. You need to be there for him, be a support for him. He too needs to support you, show him how to support by being there for him.

3. Worship together.

You can not underestimate the power of worshipping together, attending church together. This is a key aspect to the relationship, keep your worship relationship with God good and you will find the relationship between you is good as well.

4. Pray with him.

Praying together is so important, sometimes it may feel like the world is against your relationship or you are going through tough times, remember that as Christians you can take it to the Lord and he will help you. Take it to the Lord in prayer. Together.

5. Enjoy each others company.

You are Christians but that doesn’t mean you can’t spend time together, you do not need to always be doing things for the Church, or trying to convert thousands together, if you want to stay at home and watch a Rom-Com, you do it. This is especially true for Newly weds.

6. Sex is not evil.

Sex is an important part of a Christian marriage, and only marriage. That is what makes it so special, when you find the person you are to spend the rest of your life with them and you get to spend the most intimate time together. Cherish that. It is not evil but instead a gift from God.

7. Do not feel forced to have sex.

However do not feel that you need to obey your husbands command for sex. Remember, submit to your husband but do not allow yourself to be abused. No does mean no, especially in a Christian relationship. Make sure if you are to have sex that you both consent. Love should be at the heart of sex, not the lustful desires of one side being fulfilled.

8. Read the Bible with him.

The Bible is the Word of God. It is our way of hearing from God’s word when we read together. Therefore it is important to do it together, as you learn as you read it on your own, so you learn as a couple when you read together.

9. Be careful who you take advice from.

Do not allow too many people into the relationship. If you have an argument or a fall out, try to work it out together. If not bring in trusted friends preferably one man and one woman, maybe your Pastor and his wife.

10. Pray about children.

Not all couples want children, and it is certainly not a requirement for a Christian relationship but it may be something that you need to pray on and prepare for. Then seek that God would bless you with Children.

11. It is not ok for him to cheat.

Do not accept if he has cheated on you. You are worth more through Christ. You should be the only woman in his life, he should act that way towards you, respect you by only loving you.

12. Help him if he is addicted to pornography

If you come across a website or dodgy subscriptions which suggest a porn addiction, do not dismiss him straight away. Help him. Support him. It is as addictive as a drug. Help in anyway you can. Do not feel guilty, you have not done anything wrong. Only walk away, if he refuses to change, or he is has crossed a line in the things he views.

13. It is ok for you to have different friends.

Unlike the movies that suggest Christian couples are connected by the hip, you can and should have different friends. It is good for your social life but also relives some of the pressure that come with being around your partner.

14. Be prepared to rebuke.

Men don’t always get it right. Sometimes it will be your responsibility to stand up and tell him what he is doing or saying is wrong. Do not however do this in a proud and arrogant way. Do it with love and desire to care for him, in preventing him from doing wrong.

15. Trust is crucial.

As in any relationship trust is key. You need to trust him as he needs to trust you. As a couple you should work on this together, do not allow things to get between you and discuss together if anything troubles you.

16. Do not try to overpower him.

It is not good for you to try overpower and undermine him as person. This is only because it creates rifts in the relationship and puts barriers up. Understand that you can rebuke him, but do not try to make him feel worthless. He is loved by Christ as much as you.

17. Always have faith in his abilities.

Always trust and have faith that he will do well. Trust that God will bless him and all he does. This does not mean sit back, watch and laugh at the times he may fail, but instead pray for him and be there to help him up from a fall.

18. Stand next to him through good and bad.

Eve was created from Adams side. These means you need to stand side by side with your partner. Not just through the smooth and good times but when it is hard and tough. You need to support him, as he does you. You support best when standing next to him.

19. Do not judge his past.

All Christians have a past. He may have had a sexual history. But do not hold that against him. Jesus doesn’t so neither should you. Remember that you too will have done things that you may have done wrong and you may not like it if he starts to judge you for that.

20. Remember he is a sinner too.

He will make mistakes. But then so will you. You are sinners and certainly not perfect. Make reasonable allowances for this. Do not bite his head off for every little thing, instead walk alongside him and help him from stumbling into sin, as he should do the same for you.

I hope this has helped, Please find the link to the original blog post here: http://wallstreetinsanity.com/50-things-every-woman-should-realize-about-men/

 

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God bless

Gareth

The “behind closed door” sin.

 

We live in the 21st century where pornography is at our fingertips. It can easily be obtained and watched by millions by using the Television but mostly due to the rapid expansion and accessibility of the internet. Now I know that pornography comes with a reputation and many people do not want to discuss it. But because of that it has pushed people underground, choosing not to admit if they have a problem with it. Hence the title the “behind closed door” sin.

  • Men are 543% more likely to look at porn than females.
  • Those who are politically more liberal are 19% more likely to look at porn.
  • Those who have ever committed adultery are 218% more likely to look at porn.
  • Those who have ever engaged in paid sex are 270% more likely to look at porn.
  • Those who are happily married are 61% less likely to look at porn.
  • Those with teen children at home are 45% less likely to look at porn.
  • Regular church attenders are 26% less likely to look at porn than non-attenders, but those self-identified as “fundamentalists” are 91% more likely to look at porn.

Statistics from http://www.covenanteyes.com/2013/02/19/pornography-statistics/

These statistics are mind boggling. We may also think that this is a problem for weirdo’s and teenagers. But the truth is that Pornography is an addictive problem. It is as addictive as drugs and like drugs it does not discriminate on who gets addictive, the rich the poor, the single the married, the adulterous and the “faithful”. Porn is an issue.

We have however already discussed that because of the taboo that comes with porn it has pushed people to go underground and not want to talk with people about it. One aspect of modern day life we haven’t looked at is the reality that now nearly everyone has a mobile phone with the ability to connect to the internet. This has opened up everyone to the danger of the temptation of Porn. It’s lure.

There is no such thing as free porn. I do not mean the financial side to porn, the adverts on the free websites bring revenue in, but the real cost I am talking about here is the cost of lives. Not only are porn actors often beaten and treated aggressively and often drugged to force them to have sex, but when you download a video, even one with no clear violent or aggressive actions, you have joined in with the shocking treatment of the actors. Normally safe sex is not carried out, so some girls are left pregnant or forced to have an abortion.

What is the cost of this sin on the viewer. Porn is a sin. Porn leads to other sins. Though the Bible does not discuss porn directly, but it discusses shocking things like porn. Fornications like porn.

1 Corinthians 5:9-13

I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— not at all meaning the sexually immoral of this world, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reveller, drunkard, or swindler—not even to eat with such a one. For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge? God judges those outside. “Purge the evil person from among you.”

Paul says in the passage from Corinthians that Paul is urging the church in Corinth and us, to stay away from the problems of sexual sin. Porn is one of those sins. Because you are dealing with the people that make money from the immorality mentioned above. This means Paul says stay clear from porn. The way he finishes this passage of is a call to the church and us now. “purge the evil person from among you.” That is what we need to do. All of us. But if you have a problem with porn or sexual sin. Purge yourself. Clothe yourself in Christ. Protect yourself.

What does Jesus say on this topic, well Jesus goes along the line of purging yourself. Jesus says:

Matthew 18:7-9

“Woe to the world for temptations to sin! For it is necessary that temptations come, but woe to the one by whom the temptation comes! And if your hand or your foot causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life crippled or lame than with two hands or two feet to be thrown into the eternal fire. And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into the fire of hell.

Jesus is saying here basically, if you have a problem with porn or any sin, put barriers up. If you are in a situation where you often use your phone to watch porn, get a phone which can’t connect to the internet. If you have a problem viewing porn on your laptop put rigorous security settings on, or use covenant eyes to let friends know if you are tempted to look at porn. If you are married, talk about the problem with your partner. If you struggle look to them to help you get through it. Pray on it, talk. Do not let it become your secret. Something you do behind closed doors. Be open about the problem like any other sin. You need to fight it. With the help of Christ you can fight it.

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I hope this helped.

God bless.

Gareth.

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